Do we really listen?

We often hear – ‘Listening is an Art’ – Its not, otherwise everyone passing by you would have made an instant connection – As Art can be imbibed and Science can be learned.

Listening is – making a connection with the speaker – attuning oneself with the the frequency of the speaker – removing all screens so that the words are reaching our mind undiluted & unadulterated – BUT IN 99% OF THE CONVERSATION, WE THROW OUT ALMOST 85 % OF THE MEANINGFUL DECIBEL. The rest 15 % is digested and interpreted as the mind guides us to. No wonder PICTURES have a greater impact on our grey cells than scholarly essays.

How can we expect to live in harmony if we keep talking to stone walls?

Listening is hard stuff, much harder than preaching – Most of the Pastors, Pundits & Mullahs don’t listen – They just do the easy part of speaking – Gandhi was a good listener, because he practiced what he preached – So, a good listener is a good practitioner too.

Why don’t we listen to each other? – Parents to Children, Husband & Wife, Colleagues, Employer & Employees.

BECAUSE WE LIKE TO USE SCREENS TO PROJECT OUR UNTRUE SELF.

We need to demolish many types of screens – Of our culture & ethics, Society & region, Language & Nation, Social & Economic Status, Of our fears & apprehensions, of our physical & emotional security….The list is long.

But, we can do it – one step at a time. Even if we start listening to 50% of the conversation – 90% of the conflicts will take care of themselves.

This is a world of Monologues..for the moment.

Lets start listening!!